Hazrat Thanvi Rah. In reply to a salik's letter he wrote-
Love for a wife is considered worldly, but it is mubah (lawful); rather desirable. But the condition is that it should not neglect religion. Love for wife should be deep. When piety deepens, so does love for one's wife. (Anfas Isa 175)
About the 'world' condemned in the Qur'an-Hadith and said - the brain of all sins is the attraction of the world, it is also said - 'Worldly life is the instrument of deception.' - All this is one of two things: One. Becoming in such a relationship with the world, which makes people indulge in sinful activities. Needless to say, abandoning one's obligations is also a sin. Two. Although worldly activities did not indulge him in any sin, but engrossed him so much that from morning till evening he had no time for a second thought. Those thoughts occupy the heart and mind throughout the day, the remembrance of Allah and the thoughts of the Hereafter do not come to mind. Although this cannot be called a sin in the language of the fatwa, because he has not yet indulged in any 'sin', but experience tells us that this over-indulgence will eventually lead him to sin. That's why I don't want to be so much preoccupied with the world.
Without these, the world is not harmful
If these two conditions do not exist, the world becomes beneficial instead of harmful and becomes a means of nearness to Allah and success in the Hereafter. Therefore it is the duty of man to refrain from the above two things. Then the world will not be harmful for him.
Maulana Rumi says - 'Dunya' is forgetfulness of Allah. These clothes, gold and silver, wife and children are not 'world'.
If people forget Allah and the Hereafter for worldly reasons, then it is reprehensible and inauspicious. If not, the abundance of resources is not deplorable.
God-forgetfulness is the world
In essence, worldly wealth is not 'the world'. Indeed the world is the name of Allah-forgetfulness. Forgetting Allah, forgetting Allah's commands and prohibitions and forgetting to appear before Allah is the 'world'. If not, this world is helpful for the Hereafter. Because Allah Ta'ala has ordered to claim the rights of his body and soul, to claim the rights of his wife and children and to claim the rights of his relatives and neighbours. If the world is earned to fulfill these rights, then the order of Allah Ta'ala is being obeyed. Therefore it is not Allah-forgetfulness and not the condemned 'dunya'; Rather, it has been said about such 'world' - 'And seek the mercy of Allah Ta'ala.' (Surah Juma 10)
The world has been called 'God's Mercy'. Because when a servant seeks the world to fulfill the duties assigned by God, then it is God's mercy, it is not a condemned world; Rather, it is the path of Deen and the Hereafter.
Love for one's wife is part of religion
Hazrat Thanvi Rah. Who said that love for wife is desirable in the Shari'ah, the source of the Qur'anic verse, in which it is said - Translation: "Allah Ta'ala has created love and mercy between you." So this love is a gift from Allah. Huzur Aqdas, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said in the hadith: (Translation) The best among you are those who are good to their wives. And I am the best of you for my wives.'(Tirmidhi)
Elsewhere it is mentioned-Tarzma: 'Accept from me the virtue of good behavior with women.'
When one loves his wife for the purpose of obeying this commandment, it is no longer the world; Rather, it becomes religion directly.
That is why Hazrat Rah. It is said that love for one's wife also increases by increasing piety and fear of God. Because he knows that his responsibility has been entrusted to me by Allah Ta'ala. I am obliged to pay it. When he performs it with this intention, he is entitled to the reward.
The difference between us and them
That's why as Olye Kamel passed away, he had deep love for his wife and children. We also love our wives and children, but we do not have a deep love like theirs. Yet there is another big difference. Although outwardly they loved their wives and children, so do we; They also played with their children, so do we; They also expressed their feelings towards their wives; We do too, but there is a big difference.
The difference is, we love for pleasure. Like when we play with children, we do it because it is fun. Conjugal relationship with wife is because there is pleasure in it. But Allah's guardians love because Allah has assigned their responsibilities to us. So in these matters also they feel the light and enlightenment, which they do during the worship of Allah. That's why our love and their love is sky-deep.
The use of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) with pious wives
I am my Sheikh Hazrat Dr. I heard from Abdul Hai Saheb, one day Hakimul Ummat Hazrat Thanvi. He said, At first, I was very surprised that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, behaved with so much kindness and love towards his pious wives, which has been mentioned in various hadiths. Like Hazrat Ayesha racing with R.A., standing behind her shoulder and showing the Abyssinian war drills, telling the story of the eleven women at night! How does one whose relationship is always connected with Allah Ta'ala, to whom revelations are revealed, angels come, whose relationship with the upper world is always unbroken, how does he pay attention to this little worldly matter? It was very surprising to think.
Then he said, Alhamdulillah, now he understands that these two things can be combined. Because their behavior with wife and children is not like the behavior of ordinary people. Its nature is different. These things are also the source of Allah's remembrance for them. Because their motivation and perception are correct, they get the touch of light and light in all the worldly activities, which they get in worship.
"Qutbi" is read by Isale Chawab
I have heard from my Waleed Saheb an incident of Shaikhul Hind Hazrat Maulana Mahmud Hasan Saheb. One day Shaikhul Hind Rah. He was teaching 'Qutbi', a book on Ilme Mantiq (jurisprudence). A person came in Dars and said, "My mother has passed away, I am asking for a reward for her." Hazrat Rah. He raised his hands and began to pray, Ya Allah! Please pass on the reward of all we are reading. The applicant is very surprised that the book of Qutbi is also rewarded! It would be understandable if the Qur'an Majeed or Hadith Sharif was rewarded in Isal, but how is the reward in Isal of Qutbi Kitab?
Hazrat Rah. He said, "Brother, if the intentions of Allah Ta'ala are pure, then for me there is no difference between Bukhari Sharif and Qutb. The reward that will be in Bukhari Sharif will also be in Qutb, Insha'Allah.
Allah-Allah Jari in the Dars of 'Molla Hasan'
I heard from Walid Saheb, my grandfather Hazrat Maulana Muhammad Yasin Saheb. He used to say, we used to read Mantik's book 'Molla Hasan' by Shaikhul Hind Rah. All of that we could hear clearly that Allah-Allah sounds were coming out of his heart. Imagine if this happened to all of the 'manatike', the scriptures that people even called 'impure'. Then there was light and blessing for all of them because the intention was pure and the approach was right.
Adopt Sunnah with confidence
May Allah purify our intentions. amen Make the intention of Sunnah carefully in every matter. Because circumcision covers the whole life. Irrespective of the stage of life, the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) can be found. So make the intention of Sunnah based on every work. All the work of the world will become the work of religion. Then such light and blessing will be felt in those works, which are done in worship. Then it will not belong to the damned world.
This requires practice
But it will take practice. Our Hazrat Doctor Saheb Rah. He used to say that he practiced circumcision for a long time. As Khana has come forward. Delicious food, got hungry, wanted to eat, but for a moment I thought that I should not eat because of the desire, next moment I thought that Allah Ta'ala has made us responsible for our body and soul and the holy practice of Huzoor Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was that , when food came in front of him, he used to take food with thanksgiving to Allah. I will also eat according to the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet. After that I used to read Bismillah. Since Niyat was purified, this food also ceased to be 'Dunya' and became 'Deen'.
Make every action a religion
Suppose you enter the house, you are happy to see a child playing, you want to take him in your arms and caress him, but you stop for a moment and think that I will not do this because of this desire, the next moment you think, Huzoor sallallaahu alayhi wasallam used to caress children. , following him I will embrace him and caress him. Then he took her in his arms and adored her, then this act will also be considered as 'Deen' due to Sunnah.
The bottom line is that there is no act of life from morning to evening that cannot be made Sunnah or Deen based on purity of intention and perception.
May Allah Ta'ala grant tawfeek to all of us with his bounty and deeds. amen